The Hard Truth
When I played that clip I was very
curious to hear what Carol was telling the ladies. The moment she began
speaking, each and every statement she made had a point and so I immediately
stopped it, so that I could watch it with my fellow male colleagues. This was a
very interesting ten minutes of my life.
They all disagreed with each and everything she said, stating why ladies
would sit down and listen to her yet last time they checked she wasn't in any
kind of relationship. The office was turning into a war zone but I stood my
ground and stated that each and everything she said made a lot of sense whether
they liked it or not.
She began talking about drunkards please don't confuse this with
the guy who just drinks over the weekends and he does it to socialize, his
intake isn't much, dude can control his alcohol very well. She's talking about
the drunkard who drinks himself to the point he can't control himself, the one
who needs alcohol to keep him going, the dude who drinks Monday to Monday and
looks for any reason to drink and you call him your loving boyfriend.
WALK, that's her
statement and a very bold one. I know you're rolling your eyes and saying
that's bullshit but it's not. I have a friend who's dating and cohabiting with
such a guy, the only thing they do 24/7 is drink, it's been going on for the
past two years. At first it was all fans and I don't blame her, she was young
but now she wants more from the relationship. She wants a home, family,
children and a husband.
Sadly she can't get it because she can't change him. We all say
that we can change people you can't change an individual unless themselves they
want to. If from the word go she put her foot down and told him this is what
she wants from the relationship, two years down the road she would have been
smiling and saying she has all that she wanted in her relationship but nope she
doesn't.
Get mad, roll your eyes, click, curse anything that will make you
feel good about yourself do it but know that's the truth. Ladies we sip a glass
of wine bitching about how badly men treat us and yet we allowed them to treat
us that way from the offset. Yes disagree with me but we did. We had the chance
to set the bar high but we didn't. We sat there and allowed him to set the bar
for us to where he thought was ok with him yet deep down we craved for more.
I'm not the first and you're not either but it shouldn't happen in
each and every relationship you get yourself into. You learn from the first and
walk then the next you set the standards. No one will set those standards for
you but yourself. You are the only one who can decide how you want to be
treated. If you allow him to walk all over you that's your choice, want to be
treated like the princess you are, that's also a choice.
Most of these men who walk around treating ladies the way they
feel like it's the women who have moulded them that way. The women
who were in their lives never set standards and tolerated all the bullshit he
threw her way and he got into another relationship and the cycle continued.
It's up to you to change the cycle. Some ladies are so scared of
stating what they want from the offset because they are scared of being alone.
Sweetheart if he wants to be with you, he'll be with you with the standards you
set. Men love challenges and you setting your standards will be a challenge
that he'll be willing to partake. So go ahead and set the standard because dear
lady you need to be treated as the princess you are.
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