Dilemma

``I'm thinking of cheating on my boyfriend’’ She said. I sat there staring at her and wondering what had gotten into her thick scalp. What could have possible driven her to think of such thoughts. It would have made sense if it were me seated there and uttering those words because my relationship hasn't been a walk in the park but hers has been.

Ever since I got to know her she’s been in a loving and amazing relationship, several times have found myself admiring her relationship because have never understood how relationships can exist without drama. You know in most relationships there is either an ex girlfriend or boyfriend, or a jealous friend who's just poking their nose in your business.

For a few minutes I got lost in my own world as I was trying to wonder what had lead her to have such thoughts of cheating on the boyfriend. I know most of you are wondering why it is such a big deal considering that most girls cheating on their boyfriends is the norm. Breaking news; there are a few girls out there who are dedicated to their men fully without even envying other men unless it’s David Woodside.

Lack of attention, that's what lead her to the cheating seat. When the relationship kicked off she was the princess, every lady wanted her crown. He did things no man in her past could match to, every morning a surprise awaited her. A bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolate, candle lit dinner, trips to god knows what places in this country and getaway weekends was what came with the package. Love to her was not just a word but an action that he expressed to the fullest.  

  

 

Courtship was the best time she ever had, she slept an ordinary girl and woke up a princess, sadly after all that was done and the honeymoon phase came to pass, she was struck by reality. Don't get her wrong she didn't have a problem with reality, she just had an issue with the way it got served, cold. Dates, lovey dovey phone calls and messages, bouquet of flowers, chocolates, dinner dates and getaway trips were no more. What was left were homemade dishes which she cooked every night and sitting on the sofa watching a rental movie.

Her princess world had turned upside down overnight to the reality shock of the world she was scared of facing. Now here she was thinking of cheating on him not because she didn't love him but she felt unwanted in the relationship. I keenly listened to her and all the issues raised had valid points in them. Why couldn’t the honeymoon phase still exist even if reality had to take a stroll into their life? Why couldn’t she be the princess he made her to be? Why couldn’t the relationship still have that spark in it?

She wasn’t asking for much, she just wanted to be a princess every single day and it didn’t have to come with the bouquet of flowers, it just had to come with attention wrapped in a box. That’s what she wanted and nothing more, last time I checked attention isn’t expensive.

It got me thinking if he maintained the same standards he had set from the word go, she wouldn't have been here plotting on the way she was going to cheat on him. She was in a world very familiar with but with a man that turned to be a stranger overnight.

Cheating on him might make her decide her real feelings for him but it could lead her to the hands of another man without even the current man knowing how he lost her. The sad part of all is that he doesn't see if anything has changed, to him everything is the same.

She wants more and it's not her fault, he set the standards and now has to put up with it or tend to loss her. It will be sad to see this couple go apart but at the end of it all happiness is a choice and we all tend to make that choice no matter the path we take.