Acceptance

Over the weekend I’ve been thinking a lot about Acceptance. It’s a battle we are all fighting. It’s the common thing us human beings share no matter the classes in society we are in, we want to be ACCEPTED...

Acceptance deals with positive welcome; favour and endorsement. In which, a person could like someone and have acceptance for them due to their approval of that person.

Top of my list is; SELF acceptance. Self acceptance is being in love and happy with whom you are now. It’s an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept and support who you are at this moment. Many people are not content with themselves or what they have at the moment. They are either competing with themselves or with their friends. When he buys a powerful car, he goes ahead and buys a better one just to prove a point. Yes, they are such men out there don’t think it’s only ladies who compete amongst themselves. I can’t even list the things ladies compete over because the list is endless.

However, self acceptance is very important. I learnt about it the hard way. One has to accept themselves. Accepting yourself leads to a new life with new possibilities that did not exist before because you were caught up in the struggle against reality.

Another kind of acceptance people struggle with is SOCIAL acceptance. Social acceptance affects children, teenagers and adults. In our daily life we go through peer pressure. It depends on an individual’s handling of the matter. What right choices to make so as to not regret later in life. Teenage girls wonder when is the right time to give up their virginity, as for the boys pressure to join gangs, drinking and partying. The youth men are all partying, how to become a ‘professional’ player with the ladies, how many ladies have you slept with etc. The ladies are also not spared; you need to have a ‘sugar daddy’ by your side etc. Social acceptance can make or break a person. Be wise when searching for social acceptance.

This last one affects many people and it takes time to heal. I’m a victim. GRIEF acceptance; you have to accept loss, easy said than done. When we lose someone who was special to us, it takes time to accept it, it can even take years. We all deal with grief in different ways. The several times have lost dear people my mum always keeps telling me it’s okay cry it out and above all accept the loss.  Accepting the grief helps one move on with life. I never wanted to accept death because it meant am letting go and I wasn’t ready for that. However that’s not the case. Accepting the loss does not mean you are letting go instead it means your heart is at peace and memories are being treasured.

Acceptance comes in phases just like everything else. It could be called the first step in change.